Nobody else will do it for you.

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We should stop giving other people so much control over our lives.

Take complete responsibility for your surroundings and for your current circumstances. That is the first step to making any changes in life.

If you are not happy with how things are going in your life, you can do something about it.

I read a quote the other day that really changed my perspective on complaining about things that I can change.

“If you aren’t changing it, then you’re choosing it.”

That quote hit me right in the chest. I wasn’t taking…


I did and our relationship should’ve ended the moment I thought about it.

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I have been there. I thought I was so slick. I felt like I could’ve worked for the FBI. I’d hacked into his phone and iPad while he was asleep to search for signs of infidelity.

I needed proof as to why I didn’t trust him anymore.

Well, I found it. Everything I was looking for popped up in his messages and emails. I was right all along. I wasn’t crazy even though he’d been telling me so anytime I brought up concerns.

But in the end…


It’s rare to find someone who checks all of your boxes.

There will probably be missing pieces to your dream relationship puzzle. Some pieces are bigger and more important than others. You decide what matters most to you.

One night, I found just one small missing piece in another guy and briefly forgot about the importance of the rest of the puzzle.

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It was past eleven o’clock on a Friday night. I was in the heart of North Hollywood gathering my things from the dressing room after the final performance of a show I was in.

“Hey, you doing anything…


I should have loved myself first.

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I was 23 before I was in my first relationship. I hadn’t dated at all in high school or college. I was solely focused on my academics and athletics since I had a track scholarship.

My whole life up to that point had been just following the path laid out for me.

When I graduated from college, I was still very confused about what to do with my life. I moved to a new city and wasn’t sure who I would be. …


Once our relationship is over, it’s over.

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I can’t relate to people who are “just friends” with their exes. How? Why? For what?

I’ve never been able to do it.

There’s an intimacy present in romantic relationships that isn’t there for friendships. If you two still like being around each other, why aren’t you still together?

Obviously it wasn’t a hurtful breakup, otherwise you wouldn’t have remained friends. But how can you just turn off the romantic attraction like that?

I understand that feelings change. People stop liking each other romantically all the time, but how often is that change…


Toxic people only bring toxic energy.

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Life is too short to be around negative people because they only think negative thoughts.

We are what we think about. Our current circumstances are the result of our thoughts and actions. Our actions are powered by our thoughts.

If you’re in a negative space, it’s probably because your mind has been in a negative space for awhile. Being around people who only perpetuate those thoughts will keep you from moving into better circumstances.

We all know someone who always brings the energy down in the room with their constant complaining and incessant gossiping.


Instead of hearing “No,” hear “Next.”

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Change the way you perceive rejection and it won’t feel so bad.

Getting rejected hurts. It can make you question your self-worth. It can make you feel like you’ve lost something that you felt like you deserved more than anyone else.

One trick that has helped me is realizing that whatever I was going after was never mine to begin with. So, my life didn’t get any worse after the rejection. It’s stayed the same.

If you’re asking someone out and she says no, then it’s not the end of the world. Nothing has…


I thought everything was just fine until they got back together.

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My parents officially divorced when I was four years old, so I really don’t remember them being together. We lived in Chicago when they were married and after they split, my mom took my three brothers and me with her when she got a new job out of state.

I recall us taking the drive to Nebraska and realizing that my dad wasn’t with us, but for some reason, I wasn’t upset.

I remember my mom telling us that Dad wasn’t going to be living with us anymore and…


I’m cool with going with the flow as long as we’re in the same boat and have the same end goal.

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Don’t have me floating down the river by myself looking stupid. Nobody has the time or emotions to be led astray for too long.

Today, going with the flow has become a popular phrase that people use when dating someone.

Let’s say you’ve been on a few dates with each other. There is obviously some mutual interest, otherwise you wouldn’t have made it this far.

But if your friend asks you about this new person you’re dating, then you…


Find light in every step along the way.

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I feel like I’ve been chasing happiness for much of my adult life. I’d try to cling to amazing moments whenever they happened.

Those moments when I laughed so hard with friends that no sound came out. Those moments of falling in love with someone new. Those moments of finally reaching a goal I’d been working towards for years.

I cherished those moments. I’ll never forget them. I remember feeling so happy that I wasn’t dwelling on the past or worried about the future. …

Maclin Lyons

Storyteller | Poet | I write what feels right. Obsessed with love and how we live life.

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