Nobody else will do it for you.
We should stop giving other people so much control over our lives.
Take complete responsibility for your surroundings and for your current circumstances. That is the first step to making any changes in life.
If you are not happy with how things are going in your life, you can do something about it.
I read a quote the other day that really changed my perspective on complaining about things that I can change.
“If you aren’t changing it, then you’re choosing it.”
That quote hit me right in the chest. I wasn’t taking enough responsibility for my current circumstances. I wasn’t holding myself accountable for any unhappiness I felt.
It is a choice to stay in your hometown where you feel stuck. It is a choice to stay in the job you hate. It is a choice to stay in a relationship that makes you miserable.
You can choose to be miserable or you can choose to be happy. It’s up to you.
Stop blaming other people for your life not going as planned. Maybe your circumstances aren’t completely your fault, but if you don’t choose to change anything that you don’t like, then you staying is your fault.
Once you realize that this life is yours and only yours, then you can stop giving other people power over it. Instead of living a life of reactions, try to live a life of action.
Taking control of your life is choosing to be a thermostat instead of a thermometer. Thermometers take the temperature. They read it, give an output and that’s it. In other words, you just accept what’s going on around you. Thermometers cannot change the temperature, so you don’t change anything in your life.
Are you happy living a passive, reactive life? If you’d like to be a more active participant in your life, then act like a thermostat.
Thermostats can control and change the temperature. If you want the room to be cooler, you won’t hold up a thermometer. You’ll change the setting on the thermostat.
Be a thermostat.
Take control. Don’t just sit back and wait to respond to what happens to you. Instead, decide what you want and go after it. Do everything that you can to get it!