I’m not holding any grudges. I just don’t care about what’s going on his life anymore.
I get the occasional text from my ex saying, “I hope all is well. We should catch up sometime.” It’s been years since we broke up. Usually this text comes on my birthday.
I don’t respond anymore. I’ve had the “catch up” conversation with him before, early on after the breakup, and the whole time I was thinking, Why is this happening?
There’s a reason we aren’t together anymore. We’ve both moved on. I’m in a relationship. He has a fiancé (maybe wife by now) and a baby. I just didn’t understand why he cared anymore. We aren’t friends. We never were just friends. We had our relationship. It ended. We ended.
There’s this great thing called social media where you can catch up with people online. The best part is that you don’t even have to talk to them. You can keep tabs on who you want to and then just keep scrolling.
We both still follow each other. I haven’t blocked him. He should know what’s happening with me based on what I post on there. Anything that’s not on social media is personal and he’s the last person I’d share personal stuff with anyway.
I wish the best for him. Other than that, he doesn’t cross my mind. The point of moving on is actually moving on. When people still feel the need to catch up, it’s like there’s something they keep wanting to hold on to. I have completely let go.
It might be different if we ran into each other in person and both had a few minutes to talk. That makes sense. We shared a close, intimate relationship with each other so we could at least do a little small talk. How’s work? How’s life? What’s new? You’re happy? Great. Good to see you. Blah. Blah. Blah. That’s it. Five minutes, then goodbye.
Anything more than that can get tricky. You’d be on your way down memory lane. You might still look at each the way you did when you were in love. That attraction may still be there. Remember when you loved me? Remember when we said we were perfect for each other? Remember all the good parts of the past?
There’s just no point to that. It’s not really appropriate. I’d feel guilty and would have a hard time explaining that to my boyfriend. Just leave the past in the past. Enjoy the memories. No need to talk about them together.
I don’t regret what we had, but I’m glad it ended. We weren’t right for each other. I remember the good and the bad. I don’t need to catch up and I definitely don’t want to stroll down memory lane together. Our season is over. Time will keep moving and I’d be fine if I never saw him or spoke to him again. That time in my life is long over.